2008 Woodie Awards
Talking about sex in your relationship builds trust
Nichole Betts, Staff Writer
Issue date: 2/27/07
Last Updated: 8/9/07
So she opened up and told her best friend and her roommate. Their reactions were positive and receptive. One of the women has chosen to have sex while the other is still waiting. The one who is waiting said she wanted Jenny to challenge the decision but was nonetheless open and supportive of her.
Taking about sex has helped Jenny have a sense of freedom with being herself.
"The only thing I can ask for is to be comfortable being honest about my choices and who I am with the people I love," Jenny said.
What would you say …?
Last week, I asked some of my friends and acquaintances what they would say to their best friend if he or she told them they'd had sex the night before. Here are some of their answers in italics ...
Female sophomore: Do you regret it? Was it good?
Male senior: Oh! (He also wanted to know the five W's.)
Female senior: Was it with your ex-boyfriend in your car again? 'Cuz that's gross? (Also, was it good? For how long? And how big was it?)
Female senior: Ooooh! Why? You're an idiot!
Male junior: I think I'd slap them. What are you doing? You're playing Russian roulette with your life!
Female senior: Umm, you're not supposed to do that! Did you wear a condom? (Finally a good question!!) Are you freaked out? Do you want to go get a morning-after pill? (She emphasized that she'd be supportive no matter what her views are and that their standards are most important. I think she's my favorite!)
Male senior: I'll beat you up! What happened? Why? What's going on?
Male junior: Oh my gosh! I'd laugh. Was it good? Its life, we make mistakes; we move on.
Your turn.
I received ONE e-mail about my last column and it didn't even have a question for me in it! I know someone out of the entire student body has a question for me about sexual health, so e-mail me and I'll give you my advice and the hard facts on your topic of choice. Don't be embarrassed! None of your contact information will be included in the article. Get typing!
Taking about sex has helped Jenny have a sense of freedom with being herself.
"The only thing I can ask for is to be comfortable being honest about my choices and who I am with the people I love," Jenny said.
What would you say …?
Last week, I asked some of my friends and acquaintances what they would say to their best friend if he or she told them they'd had sex the night before. Here are some of their answers in italics ...
Female sophomore: Do you regret it? Was it good?
Male senior: Oh! (He also wanted to know the five W's.)
Female senior: Was it with your ex-boyfriend in your car again? 'Cuz that's gross? (Also, was it good? For how long? And how big was it?)
Female senior: Ooooh! Why? You're an idiot!
Male junior: I think I'd slap them. What are you doing? You're playing Russian roulette with your life!
Female senior: Umm, you're not supposed to do that! Did you wear a condom? (Finally a good question!!) Are you freaked out? Do you want to go get a morning-after pill? (She emphasized that she'd be supportive no matter what her views are and that their standards are most important. I think she's my favorite!)
Male senior: I'll beat you up! What happened? Why? What's going on?
Male junior: Oh my gosh! I'd laugh. Was it good? Its life, we make mistakes; we move on.
Your turn.
I received ONE e-mail about my last column and it didn't even have a question for me in it! I know someone out of the entire student body has a question for me about sexual health, so e-mail me and I'll give you my advice and the hard facts on your topic of choice. Don't be embarrassed! None of your contact information will be included in the article. Get typing!
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